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To Stop Comparing..


It's taken me a while to sit down here and start writing. Nearly three months to be exact. Now I'm here and trying to put my thoughts into words and I'm not too sure where to start. 

It's been three months of self doubt, confusion, comparing myself and feeling like I don't measure up. Numerous times I've had to stop reading a blog post or click off Instagram because it's made me feel like I'm completely failing at life. My house isn't Instagram perfect, my children throw tantrums & I struggle to get them to eat vegetables. I still haven't mastered the perfect selfie & I'm not too sure what the latest fashion trends are. I've gone to bed at nights feeling like I have no idea what I am doing. 



All of this filtered through to my blog. When I don't feel like I can give something 100% I walk away.  Is that the best thing to do? Probably not but all of the self doubt built up to the point where I had to leave this space and reevaluate everything.

Six years I have been writing here. I've shared pretty much everything. The good. The bad. I've documented two of my pregnancies. Shared my struggles with my mental health. I got to the stage though where I felt like I was putting my whole self out there and it made me vulnerable. Open to criticism. I got hung up on numbers and views. I saw other women doing so well and wondered what did they have that I didn't.

This three month break has opened my eyes a little bit. I've always written because it's something that I'm passionate about. As a kid I would write for hours and I didn't care what people thought about it. When did that change? When did I start caring more about other peoples opinions than my own passions?

I've spent a lot of time over the past month reading over old blog posts and each one makes me smile. I've documented so much of my children's lives and to have that to look back on makes me so proud. I've worked with some brilliant companies. I've rebranded twice and each time it's been for the better. The only person I should be comparing myself to is myself. No one else. We all have our own path, our own journeys and ultimately our own destinations. They shouldn't look the same so why bother comparing? The only person I end up hurting is myself.

So with my eyes wide open I'm going to write. I'm going to share. I'm going to be inspired.

1 comment

  1. Omg Liane I-think what you write is totally amazing, reading through your blogs make me smile, laugh, (often out loud )and can also make me cry.
    Your thought and feeling come through like we are sat in the same room chatting about life, so much of what you say rings so true it’s like I want to shout OMG I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!!!!!!
    Just keep doing what your doing you have an amazing talent that I’m sure so many people out there love being a part of

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