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Day Twenty Five - A Guest Post.

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Day 25 - Grab a guest post! Swap blogs with someone, and share about anything. :)

I've been both anxious and excited about this particular prompt. Anxious because I've never written for someone else's blog and excited because I've never had someone else write for mine! Today, I am welcoming Helen from I Will Bloom to my little space here. I met her through this link-up and I am so glad that I did. She is one of the warmest people that I have met in a long time and it's kind of uncanny in how similar that we are. Helen is an amazing writer and her words never fail to touch me. Head over to her blog and say Hi :)

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Guest post day today and Liane came up with the brilliant idea of writing about what advice we’d give to our children when they’re 20. Thanks Liane: it was difficult - hit me at a difficult time - but here goes:

For my children, my precious son and my beautiful daughter:

I want you to know, above everything, that my love for you goes beyond any possible boundaries. I used to say, when you were little, “I love you sooooooo much” and you both used to ask me, “Mama. How much?” and I’d say, “To the moon and back one hundred times” and you’d both sit there and stare at me wide-eyed and ask, “Only that much?” and I’d reply, tickling you, “I can’t tell you how much I love you because it’s more love than there is in the whole world. So much love it almost makes me almost burst, its almost too big for my body”. As I write this, I have images flashing through my mind of you both: of your smiles, your beautiful eyes, your laughter, of your unique little gestures and mannerisms and ways of saying things. I could sit and watch you both for hours and never get bored, just sitting and watching you gives me so much delight. 

I’m remembering, now, when you asked me, last night, after the thunder had woken you up, “Is it morning already, Mama?” and of you, my son, my 8 year old boy, rushing to my arms, for a hug, because the thunder had woken you up and you were shaking, you were so scared. Both of you all sleepy eyed and stumbly words, you were so tired. Both of you asking if you could get in to bed with me because you were scared. I think of this and I hope you’ll always see me as someone who’ll offer you shelter, whatever the situation. However bleak something seems, you must always know that you can always, but always, come to me and I will help you. Whatever it is. However small - or however big - it is, this thing that’s bothering you, I willalways be there to help you, to hold your hand when necessary, to pick you up when you fall. Mistakes are opportunities to learn, to grow. You should never be afraid of making mistakes because that’s where the opportunities to do bigger and better things are. Don’t ever be afraid of making mistakes. You should be worried if you’re not making mistakes. 

From the moment I felt you both moving, fluttering, in my belly, I felt the most immense connection with you and the most profound love for you both. A love like no other, a love you’ll only know the force of once you have children of your own. I’ve only ever wanted what’s best for you both, and I hope you’ll see that, even at times when we’ve perhaps not seen eye to eye about something, you realise that I only had your best interests at heart. It’s my place, as your Mama, to guide you as best as I can whilst allowing you to find your own, unique, paths. You amaze me every single day with your creativity and ingenuity, your sense of humour, your wit and grace. You both make me so very proud. You, my son, please, always keep your sense of awe. You, my daughter, always stay fierce. These unique, and special, qualities you have are what make you you: please don’t ever lose sight of who you are and, please, never let anyone tell you you’re less than everything, all the amazing things, you are. Never settle forless when you’re so obviously destined for more

I’m here for you, with open arms, with a full heart, a full head of knowledge and more than five decades of wisdom. I can’t wait to see what path you blaze in the world and will support you fully, 100%, in whatever it is you choose to do, as long as I see that what you’ve chosen to do lights you up and allows you to use all of your many talents to the fullest. I won’t let you settle. I wouldn’t be doing my job, as your Mama, if I let you settle for something that’s not allowing you to be everything you could be. I don’t care if that’s a singer or a painter or a banker or a cabinet maker. I just want you to know that whatever you choose is OK with me, as long as whatever you choose is something you love and something that makes you shine with a light from deep inside. Life’s too short to do something you don’t enjoy, something that doesn’t let you live your passion. 

I hope, most of all, that I gave you a life you enjoyed and that I gave you the tools you need to navigate life as an adult, with fairness and grace. You’ll have met, and will meet, many kinds of people. Some of them will build you up, some of them will try to tear you down. Treat them all equally. With kindness and respect. It’s not anyone’s place to judge others, because we can never know where the other person is coming from, what’s leading them to behave as they do. So, never judge. Never let anyone’s behaviour make your own behaviour less than acceptable. You have a responsibility to yourself to be fair and respectful and kind. Kindness is, as you know, a very important quality. It can smooth arguments, sooth people’s paths, help heal wounds. It’s powerful. Remember that. 

Remember, also, to always be thankful, grateful, for all that you are and all that you have. You can live happily with few material possessions, but make sure that you always have a rich inner life: a rich, and supportive, circle of friends; a happy disposition, cultivated from self-knowledge, self-acceptance and self-love; an active - and, importantly - an open mind; and enough motivation that you never stagnate. And if you do feel you stagnate, I hope I’ve gifted you enough will power and motivation that you move out of that state quickly. Life is to belived. Urgently. Fully. Please don’t ever forget that. 

I love you, my darlings, much more than one hundred times to the moon and back. I love you more than I love life itself.

Mama xxx




Thank you for your post today Helen!

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2 comments

  1. Whew! That was so powerful. What a beautiful, thoughtful, inspired letter. Your kids are SO blessed to have you. How saw and nurtured they must feel!

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  2. Such love and grace flows through every sentence of Helen's post!

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