The First Week At Home.

When you are a first time Mum, you can't help but imagine what it is going to be like bringing home your newborn baby. You have nine months to dream and plan what this amazing, life changing event is going to be like. You imagine yourself rocking your bundle of joy to sleep, those midnight feedings where it's all quiet and afterwards you lie your baby back down and off they settle for another four hours of sleep. It is amazing. It is a beautiful experience but there are a few things that people don't tell you. You have to find them out for yourself, kind of like a right of passage. Here's a few things that I wish I had know when I had my son nearly five years ago.

1 - Mount Everest.

You've been in labour for hours, you've pushed for what feels like an eternity and dealt with more pain than you ever thought was possible for one human being to go through.. As soon as the baby is delivered though, the pain magically stops. Then comes the adrenaline rush. You feel like you could do anything. You are wonder woman and the world is your oyster. I felt like I could climb Mount Everest right there and then. I swear that if someone could bottle those first adrenaline fulled feelings then they'd be a very rich person.

2 - They're Letting Me Take This Baby!

The day comes when you're finally able to leave the hospital and take this beautiful new person with you. No matter how prepared for parenthood that you think you are, as you are walking out of those doors you will have a moment where you stop and think.. "They're letting me take this person home! What do I know about raising a child?" After three days in hospital with my son I was so ready to be back home in my own surroundings but as I wrapped James up in his blanket and tucked him into his Maxi-Cosi car seat, then walked out of those glass double doors I fully expected security to come running up to me demanding to know what in the world I thought I was doing taking this innocent child with me.
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3 - The First Night.

I'm going to put it out there right now. The first night home. You will not sleep. If you get an hour then you're one of the lucky ones. The bouncy chair, the swing, the moses basket, the cot, all those items that you ever so carefully selected during your pregnancy. That first night, your baby will hate them all. Your arms is where they're going to want to be.

4 - Day Three.

Around three days after delivery those hormones that got you through nine months of pregnancy and a day of labour suddenly decide to pack their suitcases and vacate your body. Expect crying. Lots of it. Whether you are happy or sad, you will cry and then when someone asks you whats wrong, you'll shrugs your shoulders and bawl, "I don't know!" Someone says something nice? The tears will flow. You spill your drink? The tears will flow. You go to the toilet and notice that no one has changed the toilet roll? Yes, you've guessed it, the tears will come again.

5 - The Most Natural Thing In The World.

Breastfeeding. It's the most natural thing in the world. It is also one of the hardest things to do. I am sure that some Mum's and babies take to it like a duck to water but some Mum's, myself included, struggle. For four days I sat in tears at every feed with my daughter whilst she struggled to latch, she couldn't stay awake long enough to get a full feed and was just too small. Even if you are one of the lucky ones (and I hope you are!) there will still be bumps in the road on your breastfeeding journey. You will have days, especially in those first few weeks, where you and your baby will be in competition over who can produce the most tears. You will want to quit at some points and that bottle of formula will look so tempting.
There are so many people that can try and help you though and use them first before you switch to bottle feeding. Doctors, midwives, health visitors, lactation specialists. If like me, it's something that really doesn't work for you or the baby then don't feel bad. I beat myself up for weeks when I had to stop breastfeeding my daughter. I felt like I had failed her but now she is six months old and thriving!

6 - Visitors

As soon as you announce that your little one has arrived you will be bombarded. You will get text messages, emails, phone calls, Facebook messages, the home phone will ring as you are already on a call on you mobile whilst at the same time someone is knocking on the front door. As lovely as it is to have everyone wanting to talk to you and they will all want to visit too, it's okay and perfectly acceptable to ask people to wait awhile before visiting. Your first few weeks together are so important as a family. It's when you are getting to know your baby. The bonding experience isn't just an overnight thing, it takes time. Chances are if you have loads of visitors then you are going to feel that you have to 'entertain'.. Before you know it you will be making Coffee for everyone and being that gracious hostess. Take the time after delivery to rest. To sleep when the baby sleeps. To sit in your PJ's all day with your hair unbrushed. Friends will understand if you decide to postpone visits for a week.

7 - Enjoy, Enjoy, Enjoy. 

When I was first pregnant many people told me that it all goes so fast and before you know it you will be sending them off to school. I fully admit that I brushed off their advice. How quick could it really go? Let me tell you now, if you don't take to heart any of the above points, please take this one. It. Goes. Fast. I swear it was yesterday that I was walking out of the hospital with James. I blinked and this past September off he went to school. Enjoy those newborn snuggles, the first gummy smiles and the early mornings when it feels like the whole world is asleep except you and your baby. You will never get this time with them again. One day they won't need you to rock them to sleep or to hold them for hours on end, just because they need the comfort. The saying "the days are long but the years are short" is so true.

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  1. such a sweet post, though still a few years away i cannot wait for this crazy + magical + perfect + tiring time of life :)! Xx.

    1. It is definitely a rollercoaster of emotions but totally worth it! x


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