Home Births.


When I was pregnant with James I really wanted a home birth but because of complications during the pregnancy it wasn't viable and in hindsight, it was probably a good idea that I delivered him in a hospital. I ended up needing a ventouse delivery and James needed some help breathing afterwards. 




I didn't have a good experience post birth in the hospital though. The midwives were not helpful, it was four hours after the birth before I got a drink and ten hours before I got food. They wouldn't help me learn how to breastfeed and when I suggested that something was wrong with James' stomach they laughed at me and basically told me I was a paranoid first time time. As it turns out he had severe acid reflux and spent his first 13 months in agony, constantly vomiting. I pretty much spent three days in tears just wanting to be at home with Anthony and my newborn. I strongly believe that spending those first few days so upset affected both James and I. 





This time around I am seriously considering a home birth again. Part of me is 95% sure that it is what I want.. Actually I'm 100% sure that it's what I want but I have this niggly feeling.. What if something goes wrong and I can't get to the hospital in time? I have the memories of James' birth etched into my brain and although I know that no two births are the same and that this time it might be completely different and plain sailing. What if it's not? If anything happened to Emily because of my decision to birth at home I would never forgive myself. 

There are pro's and con's to both home and hospital births. I keep going through them in my head. At home I'll be more relaxed. I can move about and get in and out of the bath as I wish. I'll have two midwives here and I will be their sole patient whilst I'm in labor. In a hospital though, there are doctors, equipment and theaters. In an emergency they can have the baby out in minutes after getting into the operating room. I will be restricted though to one room, with different midwives coming in and out. At home I can have as many people with me as I want and James can be nearby.. In the hospital I will be restricted to two people with me and then afterwards, Anthony will be bound by visiting hours.. I want him with me for more than three hours a day! 






I keep going over and over it in my head. Trying to settle on a decision but being too scared to commit to one thing or another. I've researched websites and other peoples stories. I've spoken to my midwife and although she see's no reason why I can't have a home birth, she can't say how the birth is going to go.. What if I make the wrong decision? 

I need someone to make this decision for me! 





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2 comments

  1. Did they really tell you that your husband can't stay with you?! That is rediculous and I would be going to a different hospital.

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  2. I think pretty much all the hospitals in England are the same. When I had James he was born in the middle of the night and literally an hour after he was born they sent Anthony home and he wasn't allowed back until 10am the next morning and then had to leave at 1pm. A lot of them don't allow kids to visit either and I don't think I could go that long without seeing James!

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