Saturday, 20 September 2014

Day Twenty - Our Days!

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Day 20 - Share a day in the life. Pictures, timelines, stats, however you like.

Both James and Emilie are just like me. They like routine and structure. Maybe it's a baby thing or maybe it's just my kids but from the moment I put James into a routine when he was six months old he took to it like a duck to water. Now he's five, he doesn't really have a 'routine' anymore but of course now we have our second baby and although she took longer to get the hang of the routine, she now loves it. At midday every day, she comes to me with her dummy and starts waving. Yep, she waves when she wants to go to bed. After dinner she will sit in her high chair and shout 'Bath, bath..' She knows that after dinner comes bath time and then bed time. My routine with her was loosely based on Gina Ford.. (No hate please!) Now that she is on just one nap a day though we've kind of just found our own little rhythm. Our days, especially during the week when James is at school, are pretty much the same... The general outline is... 

6-6.30am - Emilie wakes up first. Between 4am to 6am she is very unsettled but I refuse to let her out of bed before 6am.. Before that this Mummy doesn't function very well! Anthony has already left for work, so we head downstairs so she can have her milk. She still sits on my lap and I have to feed her.. My toddler-but-still-a-baby :)

7am - James gets up.. He has breakfast.. Get's dressed and does his teeth whilst Emilie has her breakfast. 

7.30am - We all walk the dog together. James isn't fond of this. I keep trying to tell him that a morning walk is one of the best ways to start your day. He isn't really buying it.. Ha!

8.30am - We leave to take James to school. It's only a 12 minute walk but lately with the rain it feels like an hour! Emilie and I get home about 9.05am. 

9.15am-11am - This time I try and devote solely to Emilie. I might throw a load of washing in the machine or empty the dishwasher but we normally spend this time playing, exploring the garden or dancing around the kitchen. My baby loves music and now raises her hands in the air whilst shouting 'Da' 'Da' - (Dance!) 

11am - Emilie has lunch. She eats quite early but she likes to eat before her nap :) I use this time to clean the kitchen.

12 Midday - Emilie goes for her nap. This last normally till around 2-2.15pm.. It's only been the last few weeks that she sleeps without waking up every 35 minutes so I am loving having some down time during the day! I try to sit down with a drink and just relax for some of it before getting on with some cleaning! 

2.20pm - Emilie has some more milk and then we head out to get James from school. 

3.30pm - We get home. I love hearing about James' day at school. We spend some time together and then I get dinner started. This is a manic time of day! 

4.15pm - The kids eat dinner whilst I tidy the kitchen and chat to them both. We then walk the dog again. 

5pm - The kids get their baths. This is Emilie's favourite time of day! She goes mental in the bath :) They then get their PJ's on and we wait for Daddy to come home! 

6pm - Anthony normally gets home around now. Sometimes he has to work late so the kids might already be in bed but he likes to try and get home before bed time. The kids jump over him, he eats, whilst the kids are still jumping and shouting 'Daddy'.. They also try to steal his food!

6.15pm - Emilie has her bedtime milk and around 6.45pm goes up to bed. I kiss her goodnight, lay her down and off she goes. James then gets to spend some time with Anthony whilst I tidy up. James goes up to bed between 7-7.30pm.

7.30pm - Silence! Peace & quiet! I finish all the little jobs, Anthony & I spend some time together. We might watch something on TV or some nights he'll play some x-box whilst I blog. It's just a nice relaxing time of day. 

Our days are structured but have some wriggle room. I feel so lucky that I get to be at home with them and not have to split my time between them, housework and an outside job. I think that I have the best job in the world with the cutest little side-kicks but then again, I am slightly biased :)

Friday, 19 September 2014

Day Nineteen - Be Yourself.

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Day 19 - If you could give one piece of advice to a large group of people, what would it be?

Okay, firstly if I was stood in front of a large group of people and expected to put a coherent sentence together then I would be a nervous wreck. Public speaking scares the bejesus out of me. I use to hate it at school when we had to do a class presentation. My heart would be pounding, my palms would be sweaty and I would stumble over my words. 

If I had to though... I would tell them to not be afraid to be themselves. To not change themselves just to try and fit in. To follow their hearts and do what makes them happy and not to do something just to make the crowd happy. This is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I always feel like I need to fit into a mould.. Like I should meet other peoples expectations instead of doing something that I feel is right for me. As I'm getting older I think I'm getting slightly better at this but I still have to catch myself on occasions and think, is this something that I want or something that I think other people want?


Thursday, 18 September 2014

Day Eighteen - My Favourite Place.

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Day 18 - Tell a tale of traveling, a city or country you've been to or a favorite vacation.

I've only ever left England twice. Both times I was a child and to be honest I hate planes. I'm terrified of flying so I'm more than happy to stay here ;) Saying that though, it is my dream to visit America one day. I have so many places that I want to see. New York, Las Vegas, Florida, Chicago and many many more!

When I first met Anthony he was already in the Army and was based in Windsor. I would go and stay with him in barracks on some weekends that he couldn't get home. I fell in love with Windsor overnight and I have such fond memories of us as a young couple spending Saturday nights out for dinner and Sunday mornings walking down the Long Walk. To me it is a magical & beautiful place. If it wasn't so expensive to live there then I'd move there in a heartbeat! 

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Day Sixteen - Most People Don't Know This....

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I cannot believe how quickly this month is flying past! What am I going to do at the end of the month when there are no more prompts?! The skeletons are coming out of the closet with todays prompt! 

Day 16 - "Most people don't know this but..."

.... I was married before I met Anthony. I was young, naive and very very stupid. Most people don't believe me when I tell them that I'm married for the second time. When I married Anthony several people asked me how I knew that it was right the second time around. My reply was always the same.. "When it's been so wrong, you know when it's right." 

.... I am a survivor of child sexual abuse. I was seven and it was a family member. I hid it until the age of 13 and it took me a long time to deal with it and be able to move on. 

.... I do not speak to my Dad. I've given him chance after chance and in the end I got to the point where I felt like enough was enough. He has never met Emilie and I doubt he ever will. 

Monday, 15 September 2014

Day Fifteen - Mood Board!

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Day 15 - Make a mood board. Are you brainstorming a room re-do, or are you dreaming of glamping with gal-pals? Share a collage of any kind!

I am in the middle of a little DIY project at the moment so this came at the right time! I've wanted an office for a while now. Somewhere I can sit at night once the kids are in bed and write. Somewhere I can store all our paperwork without it being scattered around the house like it is now. Our house though is tiny and only has two bedrooms so a whole room dedicated to an office is out of the question. A few weeks ago though I decided that the cupboard underneath our stairs would be perfect for a little office nook! It was filled with random things that didn't have a home. I spoke to Anthony who thought I was mad but gave me the go ahead. So far I have cleaned it all out and am currently in the middle of painting it. Trying to fit in painting during nap times is frustrating! I just want to get it done. I've also purchased a desk.. That's as far as I've gotten. I know exactly what I want it to look like and I need to have it done by next month though so I can use it for NaNoWriMo in November!

It's a tiny space so I'm using light colours and maximising the walls with shelves where I can. I want it to be warm and inspiring though and not just look like I'm sat in a cupboard under the stairs! 

Sunday, 14 September 2014

Day Fourteen - Blogging.

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Day 14 - When did you start blogging and why?

Back in the beginning of 2004 all my friends were raving about Live Journal. Every night they would sit at their computers and write about their days and then comment on each other entries. After a while I decided to give it a go too. I've always loved writing and I found the whole process very therapeutic. After a year or so most of my real life friends left Live Journal, never to blog again. I carried on though and made some good friends who I still talk to today. I enjoyed connecting with people, sharing our lives and watching them get engaged, find new jobs and start having babies. 

In 2011 I started to feel like I had outgrown Live Journal. I then found blogger and the whole 'public' aspect of it kind of scared me. My Live Journal was private so only people who I chose could read it. It took me a few months to gather the courage to make the switch and for a few months after that I went back and forth. Finally though, I committed to Blogger and 'For Those Little Moments' was born which at the beginning of this year changed to 'Rosy Cheeks & Muddy Feet' 

It hasn't all been plain sailing. I found with Live Journal that there was a lot of interaction between me and my 'friends' on there. That all stopped when I changed to Blogger. We all know that over here you have to build a readership and honestly, it's still slow going. I have found some blogs and the writers behind them that I love though. I find myself getting excited when they share good news and I commiserate with them when things get tough. 

I still find the whole process of sitting down to write a post, editing photos and choosing which ones to share very therapeutic. Sometimes when I have a mind full of thoughts and emotions swirling around it helps me to get it out. I love the fact that I can go back and read posts from three years ago and quite regular I do just that.. I end up getting lost for a few hours remembering what we were up to back then. The funny things James said, how small he was. I still have my log in for Live Journal and occasionally I go back to the beginning and re-read what I wrote (Oh my, some of it is cringe worthy!) I won't delete that account though. I started blogging as an 18 year old girl who was in a new relationship and now I am a married, Mum of two. I love to see how I've changed. How far me and Anthony have come as a couple. How we've gone from being kids together to parents. 

There may come a time when I don't want to blog, to share our lives with the world, but I don't see that time coming any time soon. Sorry blogger, you're pretty much stuck with me!

Friday, 12 September 2014

Day Twelve - Traditions.

Day 12 - Tell us about a favourite tradition. It could be a family tradition or from a holiday, university, you-name-it. What makes it so special?

There are a few traditions that I love. Some that my Mum started and I've carried on with my own children and some that I've started myself. A lot of them revolve around Christmas. My favourite holiday! 

  • Every year I buy James & Emilie a decoration for the Christmas tree. When they have their own houses I plan on giving them each a box with their decorations. They can put them on their own tree or just keep them in the box. Every year when we decorate the tree together James loves to get his baubles out and to hear the stories of each one and when I brought it. I'm hoping that Emilie has the same fascination with hers. 

  • When we were kids every Christmas morning my Mum would bake sausage rolls. The smell would fill the house and to this very day the smell of sausage rolls cooking takes me back to fun, family-filled Christmas mornings. I now do the same thing. If you were to walk into my house on Christmas morning then you would be greeted with a plate of sausage rolls whilst the smell of another batch cooking fills the house. I have one rule in my house on Christmas day and that is that everyone eats breakfast. After that you can eat as much chocolate and rubbish as you want. At least that way I know that they have all had something nutritious. (Also - How many times can I say Christmas morning & sausage rolls in one paragraph.. I think we just found out!)  

  • Every birthday, starting from my very first, my Nan has rang me and sang "Happy Birthday" down the phone. As soon as I answer she starts singing. Not only does she do this to me, my Mum, my Sisters & her two sons and their children, but she now also does it to our children. I love it! 

And there are just a few of my favourites. They are little but so significant to me! 

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